Weirdest Compliment Ever!!!!

So this post is Inspired by a friend who once upon a time gave me a compliment that still makes me laugh so hard. And not because it was a beautiful compliment but because it was the weirdest compliment ever.😂😂😂 Lol!!!

So flash back 16 years; we all friends were chilling at Chandigarh lake and having a really good time. It was a beautiful and sunny day. Everything was going really well . I was lost in my own world. I saw this beautiful horse grazing the grass and I was admiring the beauty and the strength of the handsome horse. The lake looked pristine. And then suddenly I was rudely shaken out of my Reverie when I heard this friend telling me that Neha, look at that horse. Tere baal uski poonch ki tarah hain( Your hair is like the tail of the horse).I was so shocked and so offended😠😠😠😠. In my mind I was thinking kya yeh ladka pagal  hain(Is this guy mad).How dare he compare my hair to a horse’s tail. I was literally fuming with anger!!! And I was like I am never going to talk to this guy again!! He is so bloody rude!!! Whats wrong with him!!  He is totally crazy. Simultaneously I am thinking in my mind how come I end up with such weird friends😓😓😓. Karma I guess!!! I think I should drop him as a friend like a hot potato pronto!!! Lol!!!!!!

I roll my eyes and ask him why would you compare my hair to a horse’s tail😠😠😠😠. Do you want us to end our friendship? You are seriously bugging me. Are you telling me that my hair is ugly? I am so upset with you right now. Like a budhha he turns towards me and tells me observe the tail of the horse Neha. Look how beautiful and lustrous the tail is. And that is why I am comparing your hair with tale of the horse. I was blown away by the depth of his observation of the horse’s tale.😂😂😂 Lol!!!! And I was like wow!! the tale is really beautiful!!!!! I never thought of it like that. I am stunned!!

And suddenly I was happy again. I can never forget this complement and it is like a beautiful and weird memory between us. Lol!!! So whenever we meet we really have a good laugh about the same. It is the weirdest compliment ever!!!! But I have to say also beautiful in its own way. I guess I do end up with the weirdest friends. Lol!!!!😂😂😂

Rebellious Grahini-Introducing Guest Blogger Shweta Mehta Thakur!!!

Hey everyone……………today we have Invited a very special friend of ours to Guest Blog for us. Everyone Introducing “Shweta Mehta Thakur”. Shweta is an MBA and has 6 years of work experience in the Retail industry. She has worked with some of the most prestigious National and International luxury fashion brands. Presently she has chosen to be a home maker. She is a mother to a very beautiful 1-year-old baby boy Goku .

Today we have Invited her to talk about her experience as a modern woman in today’s Patriarchal Society. Shweta is somebody whom I really admire. She is fierce, Independent, opinionated, bold and at times brutally honest. She has a mind of her own. She stands up for herself. She doesn’t take s**t from anyone. You don’t mess with Shweta!!! Lol!!!  So go ahead …………….read the blog and give us your feedback. And Thank you Shweta for being so brave and sharing your experience with “ “Rebellious Grahinis”. We really appreciate it.

Shweta-You are most welcome girls. Well……. after marriage specially in a country like India there is a lot of pressure to conceive a baby…………..that also just after one month of your marriage!!!!! Your Mother In Law keeps looking into your eyes just to hear one sentence ………… “ Mummy ji tabiyat kharab hain shayad main pregnant hoon”.Lucky are those who conceive easily and effortlessy. But what if you are not able conceive even after having been married for 8 years. The same people who chose you to be their bahu and were elated once upon a time and thanked their lucky stars that their son married a beautiful, educated and financially Independent woman. But how scenario changes …………the same people now start having doubts about you and now you are no longer a suitable bahu and a good wife for their darling son and their family!!!

I have gone through this hell too……………….I was working then .I conceived within first year of my marriage. Everybody was very excited and so happy for us. Everything was lovely and beautiful. There was magic in the air. Everything was perfect!!!   But one day all hell broke loose…………suddenly I was the black sheep of the family .And the reason…………………I Miscarried. I was all alone in  the hospital with only my husband and my mother. My In-laws did not even bother to call me; leave alone come visit me!!!!! Infact they blamed me that I was responsible for this miscarriage because for me my career was more Important and I should have immediately left my job the moment I conceived. I was going through hell ………….I had just lost a baby …………..I was in pain and Instead of showing love and compassion towards me I was held responsible. I was stunned to the core and so hurt from Inside that how can people be so heartless. Sadness engulfed my heart. I was like a zombie. I just couldn’t believe what had just happened and how people were reacting to it. I didn’t say a word then. I was advised by my husband then that I should not respond to this provocation………………….. and Infact be good and nice to maintain the status of peace in the family. And I was also trying to be the “Quintessential” good Daughter-In-Law!!!!

And so the pressure to conceive continued…………………. to maintain peace in the family I left my job and followed my husband to another city where he had just got posted. As luck would have I was pregnant again. But during this time I lost my mother……………………I was really depressed, sad, grief stricken. I was completely lost. So my husband advised me that I should go to my In-laws place as they will really  take good care of me at this very Important time in my life .He said that I should go as no proper medical facilities were available in the God forsaken place. I said no that I don’t want to go and like a typical Indian husband he told me that if this time something unfavourable happened  then he will blame me for it. I just couldn’t believe what I had just heard. This line haunted me to no end. I  cried my eyes out………………I felt so alone and I had no one with whom I could share these feelings as the only one person who understood my pain;my mother  was no longer in my life. I felt helpless and powerless. So again to not rock the boat of peace and calm in the family and be a good and obedient wife……………I decide to go to my In-laws place. Intially everything was good………they were very happy that I have come to them. But one day she asked me what do you prefer a boy or a girl.I said I love girls and I am looking forward to bring a baby girl to life. She just looked at me and was very very annoyed with my answer. And guess what the very next day from her guruji she got some hocus-pocus medicine and Insisted that I should ingest it. I firmly said no but everyone insisted that I should I have it in order to conceive a baby boy. I immediately called up my husband and asked him how  on earth can a medicine change the sex of the baby!!!!But his beliefs were very strong. Obviously he was nurtured and nourished in that environment right from the child hood…………..so you can’t expect someone to give up their outdated belief system overnight.

I wanted to scream,shout,yell, hurl abuses  but did none of it……………………..I cried the whole night and prayed to God Almighty that one day my husband’s thinking would change. Anyways to cut the long story short I ingested the medicine. I don’t know what happened but within few days of taking that medicine I miscarried again.I was really angry and told everyone that this was because of the bullshit medicine.But again my Mother-In-Law blamed me that I don’t have faith in their Guruji ……………I don’t go to temples……………I don’t chant mantras……..and moreover I don’t even know how to climb stairs. And that was the moment I lost it and gave it back . My husband was sitting right there and I told him straight away that enough is enough .I AM not going to take this crap anymore.I AM done!!! You don’t like me ……………….I AM walking out of your life right this minute. I became fearless. Damn with it all. I have suffered enough!!! I refuse to accept bullshit anymore. My In-laws were happy that I was willing to let go of my husband.

But seeing my fearlessness something within my husband changed……….he took my hands in his and told me to live the way I wanted to live. No more pretending to be good. No more self-sacrificing. Because his parents were never going to be happy no matter what I do. And he straight away told his parents that he will not accept it if they blamed me anymore.He told his parents that they have lived their life the  way they chose to  and now lets us live our own.

So many things changed that day…………………….I got my freedom. Freedom to breathe. Freedom to be myself. Freedom to live the way I wanted to live. My husband understood that I now no longer feared that my marriage will fail if I didn’t live according to their rules and regulations. I realised that if you don’t stand up for yourself then no one will. If you don’t respect yourself then no one will.I am no longer into people pleasing. I have a a very cordial relationship with my In-laws today. I realised that they are bound by their belief systems and they were functioning accordingly. So I have forgiven them. I AM a much happy person today. I don’t endorse self-sacrifice because it solves nothing. It has always been my desire to live in peace and harmony but not at the cost of my self-respect.

Shweta Mehta Thakur

Babul Ki Duain!!!!

My father used to always cry whenever he used to listen to this song at someone's wedding thinking about me. I used to find it very funny then. And used to ask him...............why are you crying. My poor father used to get embarrassed and would scold me for making fun of him. But as life has it; he passed away before my wedding and never got an opportunity to cry on his own daughter's wedding day. And that makes me very very sad. I wish life had given him an opportunity to express his emotion for his own daughter that he raised with so much love.

This song is in memory of my beloved father who is no more. But we will always love him!!!! With this song I wish to heal myself  from this great loss. Some losses are too great but heal we must!!!

MADONNA* FROZEN

So I was sitting and suddenly this word popped into my mind “Frozen” and my mind showed me Madonna singing this song. It’s a beautiful song and the picturistaion is even more beautiful and mysterious. I don’t know what came over me I opened You Tube …..saw the video…..learned the lyrics, sang and recorded the same. And then I asked my friend and next door neighbour Sanjana ….who happens to be an awesome singer!!! How I sounded. She played my song on her brand new JBL speakers and she said she liked!!!

Well……now I AM considering posting it on my blog just for fun. I guess it’s the Mhow effect!!!!

REBELLIOUS GRAHINI-IDEAL BEAUTY!!!

Checkout my Video Blog on Ideal Beauty.

Striving for Ideal Beauty can be very stressful!!! Who’s to say what is ideal???? How do we decide what is ideal and what is not.  Hmmmm…………………… tough. Media is always telling us what an Ideal woman should look like. But media has has its own agenda’s!!! Company’s want to sell their products at any cost and will trigger feelings of unworthiness within you. They will bombard you with messages  that you are not good enough, not beautiful enough, not fair enough and to feel good about ourselves we are persuaded to buy their products!!! Koi bhi cream laga kar kaha koi aaj tak gora ho paya hain. But still we buy these creams in the hope that they will make us fair and finally we can accept  and feel good about ourselves. Things are not automatically going to  work out for you if you splash yourself with this certain Talcum Powder!!!!( Har baat hogi poori jab shurwat ho sahi)  I have bought many creams to get rid of dark circles under my eyes but no cream has been able to help.

Beauty pageants are constantly telling us that you have to be a certain size to even be eligible to participate in them. A true Beauty pageant will allow women of all shapes and sizes to participate in them .  Are they trying to tell us that women with perfect 10 bodies( What is a perfect 10 body anyways) are the only ones who are beautiful, Intelligent, talented and Interested in world peace!!! It’s laughable!!!    Right now only beautiful and supposedly perfect bodies are participating in these contests. There’s no heart and soul in it.  It’s all about outer beauty. These contests do not empower women; they only project that they are interested in women empowerment. True inner beauty is not even a consideration!!!

Have you ever watched these reality show’s where they shame women based on their bodies? Every time I cringe when they tell a woman that your body is not good, you are fat, your bum is not of  right shape, your thighs are fat , you are not tall enough, your smile is not perfect. Are they a bloody piece of meat????  If you are short in height you can’t participate. Why????? You could be short in height but could have the most beautiful heart and could be really talented, creative , have the most amazing grand ideas  and wait for it be interested in………………………….ta da “ World Peace”!!!!

Why is height, weight, skin colour, even a consideration in defining true inner beauty!!! Why are we so limited in our perception of what true beauty is all about!!!!  I guess we have to redefine the meaning of “ Beauty” ourselves and not allow media, company’s or some beauty pageant to define it for us.

MR BEANS-INDORE!!!

Last week we were in the beautiful city of Indore and we happened to discover this awesome café “Mr Beans”. Firstly, I have to say that I was pleasantly surprised to find that Indore is such a great city. I had no idea that Indore is no less than any metropolitan city and also it’s very clean. Lovely city!!!

Anyways back to “Mr Beans”. It’s a great place. It’s a really cool café; very hip and fashionable. The ambience is very beautiful, fresh and relaxing. They have styled it like a French café. Great crowd!!!The menu is very expansive. The food is yummy. You can lounge here for hours and still not get bored.I realy loved and enjoyed the whole “ Mr Beans” experience!!!

CHEF'S ALCOVE!!!!

Check out this awesome restaurant " Chef's Alcove" in Rau,Indore. If you happen to be in the city, then definitely take out the time to visit this cool eating joint. It is a great place!!! " A must visit!!! I highly recommend it.

Rebellious Grahini-The Quintessential Woman!!!!

Check out these advertisements which define  a " Quintessential" woman !!!! They are so misogynistic that they took our breath away. I wish we "The Rebellious Grahini's"could find a place in our hearts to find these advertisements funny but unfortunately they clearly  depict what a woman's position is in a Patriarchal Society!!!!!